Highways

So, the running theme of my life lately has been total stress. I freak out when things aren't going my way, get bossy and try to make it how I think it should go.

No, I am not a control freak.

I have to know things so I can make right decisions, and if I don't know what's going on, it just upsets me even more. This creates drama.

I want people to think well of me. And I want them to be happy. It colors my decision making process to the point of rediculum.

No, I am not a people pleaser.

So what if I am all these things? So what if what I want just so happens to be what makes people happy. And so what if I need to know and have things go my way?

But that is not the point of this blog today.

Today, I came to a very important realization. I am 21 years old. And I am old enough to start living my life on my own terms. We only get one chance to live. We have one life, and when its over, its over. Depending on what you believe, there is no other chance to take the bull by the horns and force it in the direction you want it to go.

So, what am I getting at?

So many people are a part of our lives. These people have a hand in shaping out lives and color our decisions in everything. But it is not what makes us. We decide who we are. We decide what we believe. We are a product of our own past and and our own thoughts and our own beliefs and our own actions.

So, what am I saying?

Stop trying to make everything right. Stop trying to get everything to go your own way. And enjoy the life that God has gifted you with. You only get one shot at it. Make today the best day of your life, this moment the most important, and only take the things that stress you out as they come.

Don't freak out when you don't know what's going on. Don't control the out come.

Cause you know what? When the highway of life takes the most unexpected turns, the scenery is the most beautiful.

Love to my readers :)

Conflict of Interest on Prop 8

Hello Readers! As Philip DeFranco likes to say "I love yo faces!"

So, here's the deal today: Look way back in your memories to 2008. Do you guys remember that little thing we voted on called Prop 8? You do? Oh, good! It was that thing that defined marriage in CA as hetero. It also provided for previous same-sex marriages, by recognizing all of them that had taken place before November 2008. It was kind of a big deal, if you guys remember.

Well, in 2010, a District Judge named Walker overturned the proposition in a cases known as Perry v. Schwarzenegger. It was deemed that Prop 8 was unconstitutional, violating the 14th Amendment, and a stay was put in effect on Prop 8 pending further appeal, aka, its going to the Supreme Court.

This isn't my issue...if you desire to know how I feel about same-sex marriage and relationships, I have a blog  already posted discussing where my thoughts are on the subject. No, what gets me is what's in recent news. Judge Walker, now retired, the guy who overturned Prop 8 and sent it to the Supreme Court, had a back story that the public was only made aware of recently.

Judge Walker is gay.

His 10-month relationship has just been revealed. Now, the issue with this is how it effected the original case and its subsequent judgement. If you look back at the time-line, when Walker initially presided over this case, he was just starting out in his relationship. The argument from the opposition is that this had an effect on how he ruled the case, that he had a Conflict of Interest.

Two things:

1) Why wouldn't he say something? If he didn't have anything to hide, and he was truly interested in giving an honest ruling, why would he not mention in casual conversation "hey, my boyfriend and I...."?

2) Does it change anything? I know this adds more fuel to the fire of the people trying to uphold Prop 8, but does it really change anything in the eyes of the government?

Its not that I think Prop 8 is un-constitutional. It isn't. But before you jump down my throat, let me explain why. Why the heck would you put something that is simple common knowledge, like breathing, into a document about how to run a country? You wouldn't! The definition of marriage never should have even been a question. But in this time and country, it is.

So, guys, here's what I want from you. I am interested in your honest opinions. Should Walker have stepped up and said something? And either way, in light of the present government, does it change anything?

I am, as always, grateful to have you all out there listening.

With love, the Wondering Mind

Glenn Beck, Government Shutdowns, and the Anarchist Cookbook

Hello, fellow wonderers.

I am busy.

And I am stressed.

But do you really care? No? I didn't think so.

So, here's what I think today.

Glenn Beck Show is no longer going to be played on Fox News. As I know a lot of you liberals are out there cheering, here is what I say: You bunch of haters! Glenn Beck's show is all about honest opinion and research. And being honest. And telling the truth. And giving the American people his honest research. And his honest opinion based on that honest research. Did I mention he was honest?

Which is way more then I can say for you guys.

Sorry to say the truth (no, actually, I'm not), but you never gave the poor guy any credit for what he did. It was always stuff like "Glenn Beck doesn't know what he's talking about" and "Glenn Beck is a racist" and "Glenn Beck is intolerant" and "Glenn Beck hates babies and women" and "Glenn Beck is a slaver"...ok, maybe not the last two, but see? You shouted foul so much about him, that nobody cares what you think anymore. Sure, you're celebrating his exit from national tv. But really, guys? Who gives? He's still going to publish books, be on the radio, and the web. You'll have about as much luck getting rid of him as you did Rush Limba...so good luck with that.

On the "close" government shut down of last weekend: I love you all to pieces, but stop spending money! You know what really gets me about the whole thing? That if the government did shutdown, guess who doesn't get paid? The military. And guess who still does? Politicians. How is this even remotely ok? The guys out there risking there lives for us have to worry about whether there families are getting food, but the guys sitting in there thousand dollar Armani suits and driving in limo's still get a super fat paycheck....so how about this: The politicians take a pay cut of about 20%, and we poor that money back into the economy. Thats a budget plan I'd like to see.

And please. Blaming the Republican Party for the stale mate they were denying the rights of "underprivileged women to get healthcare"? Say it like it is: The Republican Party wanted the Federal government to stop funding Planned Parenthood. And when you snapped your fingers like a valley girl and said "like, so totally, like, not happening," it was game on! And it was you who refused to budge when the Reps came back with a plan to distribute said funds to the states, and then the states do as they see fit with it...as in funding Planned Parenthood or state run clinics. So, lets review: who's fault was it? But really? Tell the truth and stop pulling at my heart strings!

If this post gets removed, you'll know why. (The government hates me)

So, that's all I've got for today. I'm gonna go google anarchist cookbook and see if the government kicks down my door.

Much love,
The Wondering Mind